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Depression as my personal trainer (or how I turned the bad into good)

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In the first few weeks of my depression, I lost ten pounds.

I just didn’t have the desire to eat. Even when I was finally able to force myself to sit down for a meal, I often stopped eating mid-bite. My body just refused food.

And when I started taking antidepressants, my medication killed what little appetite I had left. So yes, the pounds kept dropping. And people started to notice.

“Huy, ang payat mo na!”
“You’ve lost weight, what have you been doing?”
“Hey, you’re looking slim, what’s happening?”

These encounters were always a little awkward because I never knew what to say. Sometimes, just for laughs, I think about replying, in a very zombie-like way, “IamclinicallydepressedandIcouldnteatandmymedicinekilledmyappetite.” But I don’t want to scare the people around me. They’re great people.

And so I cycled through a number of different answers: “I don’t know!” Or: “I haven’t been eating.” Or: “Uh, swimming?” And what eventually became my favorite: “Lipo!”

But the truth was, I was doing more than just not eating.

When I was still trying to figure out what was happening to me, I read somewhere that you should do the opposite of what your depression tells you to do. And so even before seeing a psychiatrist, that’s what I did.

On days when depression was telling me to stay in bed all day, I forced myself to get up and go out. It was harder on some days than others. But I persisted. I kept working. I went to the pool to swim. I had started swimming a few months before and I refused to let depression stop me.

I remember one day vividly. It was early December and I had been feeling numb and empty for a couple of weeks. I just couldn’t feel anything. I couldn’t cry even if I tried to. I swam as close to the bottom of the pool as I could—it was always nice and quiet at the bottom of the pool. When I paused for a breath and my head broke through the surface of the water, I heard a chorus of voices singing. A choir that I could not see but could hear clearly was singing a Filipino Christmas song. It was such a beautiful moment.

This, I told myself, this would be the perfect time to cry. Instead, I dove back into the water and kept swimming.

As the days went on, that’s what I did. I refused to give in to the whims of depression and stubbornly kept moving. It was a double-edged sword—not only was I defying depression, exercise is also really good for the mind.

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It became even easier when I moved back home because the pool was now merely steps away and did not require a car ride. I started running too.

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Even on the busiest days, I would squeeze in a swim or a run between interviews, events and appointments. (I’ll tell you a secret: one time, I was so pressed for time that I went to a movie premiere still wearing my jogging clothes. I just traded my sneakers and socks for TOMS and I don’t think anyone noticed. I asked Tatin after, “Did I stink?”)

And because I am me, and I tend to overdo things, I overdid the running, especially after Wiji, The World’s Most Awesome Tattoo Artist, told me I couldn’t swim for two weeks after getting my tattoos. I tried to make up for it by running twice as long and as hard. In just a week, I had developed runner’s knee.

“That must be a record,” my co-worker and friend Anne said, laughing. “Tinalo mo pa mga nagma-marathon sa bilis mo magka-runner’s knee.”

I thought resting it would be enough but soon, my knee was so painful that I had to drag myself to the doctor. And I mean literally drag. Because I was in so much pain that I could no longer walk normally.

Can you believe it? I actually had to go to a sports doctor. Me.

 

Did you ever think I’d end up going to the doctor for exercising too much? No? I didn’t either.

Posted by Pam Pastor on Friday, February 5, 2016

The doctor gave me a long lecture on the importance of stretching and not overexerting myself and taking things slow. “I get it,” he said. “You’re in a group, it’s fun, and you’re tempted to keep up with them.”

“Oh no, that’s the bad thing,” I told him. “I was alone.”

He glanced at my Fitbit. “If your gadget is telling you you need to take more steps, walk, don’t run.”

 

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And he told me not to run for at least two weeks. I groaned.

“But I don’t want you to stop exercising. Don’t lose your momentum,” he said. “Keep swimming. Try yoga. Or Pilates.”

For years, whenever people would tell me that working out can be addicting and that your body would start looking for exercise once you start, I rolled my eyes at them. Who in their right mind would get hooked on sweating when you can binge-watch The Office instead? But they were not lying.

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Because when I was stuck in bed icing my knee, my body felt desperate for movement. And so I grabbed my phone and typed this into the search bar: “exercises you can do…” I wasn’t done typing yet when Google auto-completed it to “exercises you can do in bed.” I was pleasantly surprised. That meant I wasn’t the only crazy person who wanted to work out while propped up on pillows! And I was even more pleased to discover that there are actually a lot of exercises you can do while comfortably horizontal.

I also went back to swimming as soon as my tattoo-induced chlorine ban was over.

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And, as soon as my knee healed, I hit the oval again and started walking at first and then running.

On days when I couldn’t make it to the oval, I walked around the neighborhood or I wouldn’t ride the car and instead walk home from where we had dinner. It’s just important for me to stay active.

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Depression wanted to keep me glued to the floor? Oh hell no. I was going to turn it into my personal trainer.

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I started Pilates classes too, something I never thought I would do. My Pilates teacher Nina has been unbelievably patient. Sometimes Pilates feels more like an IQ test than a workout—an IQ test that my stubborn shoulders always fail and that I flub up with my confused breathing—but I like how it has been helping me get to know my body more and discover (and stretch) parts of it that I didn’t even know existed.

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I’m going to try crossfit next. And go to my cousins’ gym to see if maybe it’s finally time to sign up for one. That’s my plan—I will try different kinds of exercise to see which ones I’d like best. But swimming and running will remain a constant. I love those peaceful moments—just me and the water, just me, my music, the oval and the night breeze.

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When I started to suspect that I was depressed, one of the things I first researched was what changes I could make to help myself. I soon learned that diet makes an impact on your mental state. And so whenever I could manage to eat, I tried to eat fish rich in omega-3 (tuna and salmon forever). I also started avoiding caffeine (it’s a good thing I’ve never been a big coffee drinker).

A few weeks after I started taking my meds, I started eating more regularly. Still not as much as before but at least I could actually feel hunger. Lola Lydia played a huge part in that, sending over trays of food when I was in the midst of moving in. I survived on her tuna sandwiches for about a week.

The strangest part was realizing that I no longer craved the kind of food I liked eating before my diagnosis. I posted a photo of the surprisingly healthy contents of my grocery cart one day and joked, “The alien abduction continues.” Because it’s true. There were times when this whole thing has felt like an alien abduction.

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Except for the two times that I turned vegetarian (once for almost a year and once for just thirty days), I never made a conscious effort to eat healthy. I liked fried food, I loved potato chips, I could never say no to sisig. But that has changed.

I asked my psychiatrist Dr. D. “Doc, it’s weird. I used to like junk food, fast food, unhealthy food. But now just the thought of eating fries makes me queasy.”

“It’s possible that you were self-medicating with comfort food before,” Dr. D said.

Tita Marie, who is a clinical psychologist in Seattle, agrees. “It makes total sense to me that you aren’t as drawn to high carbohydrate food now that you’re on medication. It means you are in better balance, and that as your psychiatrist observes, you probably were self-medicating.”

She also wrote, “A lot of my work was with people with eating disorders and addictions. Often, people predisposed to binge-eating or drinking or drugging or gambling or sexcapades to excess are really responding to the body’s craving for something to straighten out the chemistry… It really makes sense to pay attention to diet as a way of treating the brain… When I would see your posts about the type of food you were promoting and enjoying eating, I actually was worried about what was going on for you health-wise.”

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Sorry, skin

Now, I eat mostly seafood and chicken (no skin, gasp!), vegetables and fruits.

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I drink only water (a lot of water) and fresh coconut juice (with no sugar). I avoid desserts, I’m lessening my salt intake (goodbye, salt with pineapples), I don’t eat rice and, as much as possible, eat only wheat bread. I can’t remember the last time I ate pasta. If there’s a low-fat option for anything, I go for the low-fat option.

There are still a couple of things I can’t resist though—like my Lola Lyd’s lumpiang shanghai and anyone’s fishballs. I am only human after all.

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When I first signed up for Pilates, there was a question on the form: “What is your goal?”

“To get healthier,” was my quick answer.

I have lost over twenty pounds since December. But I haven’t really been keeping track. Because that is not the point. Losing weight has never been the target of my lifestyle change. It has just been a bonus. I really just wanted to get healthier. I wanted to spit in depression’s face and say, “Look, bitch, I am stronger and in better health now than I was before you arrived.”

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And the wonderful thing is the people around me have been helping me spit in depression’s face without realizing it. I didn’t have to buy running shoes—Jag and Grace had given me a pair for Christmas, probably thinking I’d just wear it to the mall. My mom arrived home from the States with a bunch of cute sports socks. Charlie had given me a Fitbit Charge HR which has become my best friend. Rem, my Fitbit buddy, has been challenging me to meet the daily goal of 10,000 steps (I failed yesterday, Rem, I know, but in my defense, I did one hour of Pilates that the Fitbit couldn’t log). When I bought sports bras at H&M, I won a two-week pass for Crossfit Manila.

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And some people have been consciously helping. Like Lola Lydia who keeps cooking healthy food (even packing my meals when I’m in a hurry to leave).

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Anne who gave me a gift card for Pilates classes. Lolo Bojie who brought home fish for me. Tita Marie who stresses the importance of eating healthy (and eating a lot of leafy green vegetables) in her lovely emails. Nico’s consistent (and punny) reminders to eat. Tita Arlene and El who introduced me to the oval and who are my sometimes walking and running buddies.

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Yaya Delta and Dino who chaperone me on my late-night walks around the neighborhood. My Pilates teacher who went out of her way to tell me to always remember to bring water because my meds can dehydrate me. My mom and her words of encouragement. And Powie who willingly picked me up from the oval on Yaya Delta’s birthday.

If you told me just a few months ago that I would one day be diagnosed with clinical depression and anxiety disorder, I would have told you that you were crazy. But if you also told me just a few months ago that I would end up really enjoying working out and eating healthy food, I would also have told you that you were crazy.

Life can surprise us in shitty ways. And the only thing we can do is spring our own surprises. By turning the bad into good. The roadblock into a springboard.

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